Being part of a new social network with Koreans will give you access to Korean women you wouldn’t have been able to meet otherwise.
You’ll also experience facets of Korean culture that most foreigners don’t get to experience (good for you!) 😉
On the other hand you’ll also have to adapt to a new environment and understand that the social dynamics are very different than Western social circles.
You’ll have to: • drink and stay out late • know your place • be open-minded and learn their language
Sounds simple enough, right?
Let’s take a look at what you’ll have to do to be a part of a new social network of Koreans. Up for it? 😉
Drink and Stay Out!
You’re probably thinking “sure I already do this. This isn’t new!”
Hold on there, cowboy! 😉
I don’t mean drink a few beers and stay out till 2 o’clock. I’m talking about downing shots of the treacherous soju (their national alcohol) and going home once the sun comes up! I’m also talking about doing this on workdays!
NOTE: Okay I’m exaggerating, but not by much. Drinking and staying out late is routine with most Koreans.
You see, in Korea (and most of Asia) your context determines what’s socially acceptable and unacceptable. Being drunk and out with friends is the only acceptable way for Koreans to speak their mind and be a little wild.
So Koreans drink a lot and you’ll have to keep up with your newfound Korean friends if you want to be a part of your new social network.
Granted if you plan on joining a tamer social circle of Koreans you can but you’ll still be expected to drink and hang out late.
Know Your Place
No, I’m not talking about where you live. I’m talking about your status, age and yes, race.
If you’re not Korean you’re a foreigner. You’re on the outside. Korean-foreigners are the only exception (and I think it depends on their skin color.)
Yes you will be an outsider no matter how much you know your new Korean ‘friends’. In fact at first they will use you as ‘social proof’. “Hey look at my foreign (mainly white) friend! I’m cool!” is quite the norm.
If you’re okay with being somewhat of a trophy to the group then you’ll be fine.
If you’re expecting your new social network to accept you for who you are then you’re in for a disappointment. Korean culture is still mainly about superficialities. Just accept it.
When it comes to meeting your ideal Korean woman your Korean friends won’t help you at first. You might get ‘introduced’ later on if you’ve
• been “accepted” with the group after a while (the time it takes for this varies)
• she’s not with anyone
• no other Korean guy is interested in her.
Let’s face it – being with you (the foreigner) can easily make her look bad in front of her peers. She would rather be with a Korean guy (in general) than with you for many reasons – too many to list here.
NOTE: Yes Korea and Korean culture are changing towards becoming more ‘globalized’ but we still have ways to go (like 10+ years) before Korea and Koreans in general become more culturally accepting. Just deal with it.
If you want to build a new social network with Koreans then you’re going to have to be okay with getting hurt. You will make cultural mistakes, re-adjust to how Koreans ‘hang out’ and so on. You’re also going to have to be patient.
I also highly recommend learning some Korean. The sooner you can interact in Korean and show that you know their culture, the sooner you will be accepted and able to impress them.
You’ll be able to show that you can understand and vibe with them.
Is A New Social Network With Koreans For You?
Personally I only have a select few Korean friends.
I don’t enjoy staying out too late and am not much of a drinker.
Building a social network or being part of one isn’t for me.
That’s why learning about how to meet women via other ways was helpful to me. You can read more by clicking on the link.
Granted if it’s for you and you think you can handle it then go for it! If you’re in Korea it’s easy to get started. Join interesting clubs or go to night clubs and say “hi” (it really is that simple.)
If you’re outside of Korea you can still go to where the Koreans hang out and just start hanging out with them. You can even ask around as to where Koreans go out (and keep all the Korean dating tips you’ve learned in mind.)
Whatever happens: be patient, learn and have fun! 😉